All posts by Jitneesh Layal

"You only live once, but if you do it right then once is enough..." Just trying to be myself no matter what...


People think a lot before doing a thing, they ponder, they research, they explore, they exhaust themselves and leave no options till they reach to the

Sometimes, it is just do it…(attitude required…!!!)

Stop thinking and wasting your time, just let yourself out of that ugly box of yours. The world is ready to embrace you, just go get it….!!!



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This world is cruel.  They always love people who are fresh, have great ideas, new talents, multitasking, jack of all trades.  They teach you many things if you really want to learn.  This law is for the people who have seen good days and bad days.


Law #2:  Being on the top is very easy, but to stay on the top is very hard.



There was a washerman.  He had a donkey.  He used to wash clothes on the river bank.  The donkey used to carry the clothes.  Washerman used to put loads of clothes on him and he used to carry them as he was young and was in pink of his health.  Time passed by, donkey became old and he was now able to carry less clothes.  One day it happened – washerman and donkey were going to river bank.  As they were walking, the donkey unknowing slipped and fell in a big pit.  Now the washerman started to think that what he should do?  Whether he should try to help him or leave him there only.  He thought that as he was old and of no use he will bury him like this and get a new one.  So, thinking this he started putting mud on the donkey.  But donkey got the hint of his idea that something is wrong.  What he did that every time the washerman tried to put mud on him he jumped and shook all of the mud and came up.  The washerman kept putting mud thinking that he will bury the donkey alive and donkey kept on repeating what he did.  After some time, donkey was up again and got out of the pit.  The washerman was very much astonished to see this, but before he could think anything, the donkey ran away because he came to know the intention of the washerman.


The same thing happens to you when you are on top.  The people will allow you to stay there till you are useful for them and as soon as you are lacking somewhere you will be sacked.  So, to be on the top you will have to improvise and adapt because this world follows the funda, “survival for the fittest.”




With the life in top gear everybody needs to do more in less time.  This attitude is now a trend and is thereby subjecting to higher stress levels in individuals.

Health survey done shows that out of 100 people 80% of the people are plagued by stress, 20% are trying to cope with it, and 10% are effectively able to do it.

Here are some of the simple ways to deal with it.


Write it down

There are many small details we need to remember in order to complete certain tasks in our daily routine like banks, e-bills, account numbers, cell phone numbers, etc.  Jolt it down somewhere, where they are easily accessible, so that they do not make you run around.


Also to chalk down are the regular activities which provoke the stress in day to day routine.  Try to avoid them or change them as required.  Do lifestyle re-modelling if need be.


Exercise routinely

Simple yet effective.  There is no need to do an aggressive routine daily but small regular work out can do the magic.  The funda is to just take time out from your regular routine and indulge yourself in a stress-free environment.  Try breathing exercise which are quite helpful.  Breathe in and hold your breathe for few seconds and leave it slowly with concentrating on breathing and nothing else.  This will surely lower you blood pressure and bring down the stress level.  Cardio and yoga are also some great options to work out for the people who do not want to put themselves in heavy gym workout.


Some of the techniques you can relax with are:

  • Massage therapy

Get yourself a good massage if possible.  It will relax and loosen your body up and make it tension free.


  • Aromatherapy.

This is one of the popular therapy now a days to relax and rejuvenate your body.  Need to try this out.


  • Stretching.

Gentle stretching after the work can also do wonders and relax your overworked muscles.  Just try to do it properly under proper guidance.


  • Yoga.

Another simple but an effective technique practiced for ages.  This not only uplifts your immune system but also provides stamina and strength to the muscles.


  • Meditation.

This is a state of art of relaxing at anytime anywhere you want.  Just the requirement is to concentrate and leave your body loose and just relax.  This is a simple but good way to get energized.


Explore things that relaxes you

After a days work, just try to find out an activity which will really relax you down, it can be listening to music, drawing, watching a movie of your choice, just hanging out at your favorite place with friends, or anything.


The point is to make your mind free from a regular routine.  It is just because of the monotonous routine that a person follows makes him so stressful, just go out of way and do something which is not in a routine and is just for fun.


Good sleeping pattern

Sleep is one of the important aspects of the stress busting.  Everyone needs a proper rest.  Allow your body to get a good night sleep.  Sleep at least 7 hours so that your body gets rejuvenated.


This will not only make you more functional but also improve your efficiency.  Avoid taking power naps, as it fakes your mind with rest and just gives a kick to do more when your body isn’t working to the fullest.



Sharing your problems with spouse and colleagues can be a good way to relieve yourself from the stress.  Share about the problems you are facing at work or health problems you have. 


This will not only relieve you from the extra burden but also will provide you with a sense of relief. Talking it out is one real boon for stress busting.


Take time out

Give yourself little breaks.  Small breaks from the routine work sessions can be helpful.  This will not only give a change to you but also refresh your mind and body to act more fluently to the task.  Just take a walk out, have fresh air, walk around.

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If there is a garden nearby, go and see some greens there.  Changing the environment can work wonders for you.  Taking time out is equally important as working, so never forget to do it regularly.



Try to avoid alcohol and cigarettes, as they are nothing but mind altering things which does not relax the body, but even put more burden on it by making them work under pressure.


Better to be safe than sorry.  Healthy habits can help a person to live better life.  Try to cultivate good eating and lifestyle so that it is helpful to lead a good and healthy life.


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Everything is governed by laws.  Be it earth, things around us, friends we meet, parties we do, and so on.  We can correlate everything with anything.  In this series of memorandums, I would like to state them one by one;

Law #1:  Nothing changes until and unless you do it by yourself.

This is true for everything.  Just give it a thought and you will come to know that it stands true.  As simple as that – “If you work then you will get money and from money you can buy food and suffice your hunger.”

This is just simple chain of events but it follows a sequence that if you change one thing, the outcome changes automatically.  So, the laws of science are always around us, but some times we miss the science behind it.




There are times when people get down, depressed, broken, shattered by fate or by chance or deliberately by someone or the other reason.  They feel themselves like in a dark pit surrounded by most vicious of animals around them, ready to pounce and make their appetite.  Well, Guys!!  Life isn’t that bad as it seems like in the above stated words of mine.


It is always your call, your decision, and your own choice to decide what you want from it.  I have always said to everybody whosoever I met that it is what you make out of your life is important and not what is meant for you by the fate, as it is only present which belongs to you not the past or the future.  You always live the moment, not live the past or future because you cannot change what is done and you cannot control what is going to happen, but what you can do is live the best out of present moment.


Here are some tips to get yourself charged up if you are feeling depressed.  Just follow these and find yourself inspired and rejuvenated with life full of possibilities.


Forget past

Do not even care to think about what was it because it will yield you nothing but depression and pain which you want to leave behind.  Try to concentrate on present make it better, live it.


Concerned what other think ?

What do people think of you when you do anything is getting to your head and bothering you.  Leave it aside as it is nothing but hindrance in your growth and happiness.  Try to live a carefree life, stop thinking about what people are thinking about you and enjoy.


Time heals !!

Yes, time is really a good medicine for everything.  You know how, because it keeps on changing and is never the same.  Give time to everything in your life as it is best you can do to inspire yourself and grow.


You are the reason !!

No one is the reason of your happiness, but you and you only.  It is what you do to yourself makes you happy and sad.  So, come out of the box, make yourself feel good and be happy.  It is not so much difficult as it looks like.


Don’t compare !!

Do not compare you lifestyle and life with anyone else because everyone has his own.  Try to be contained within what you have and what you can be by concentrating on present.  Just be focused to your goal and you will get what you want.


Too much reasoning !!

Just do not go into the topic so much that you forget what you were actually going to do.  Just stay focused on the goal and evaluate the pros and cons of the situation and act accordingly.  It will definitely yield in success.  But too much thinking will yield you nothing and exhaust you to the point of hopelessness and helplessness.



Well, this is the most easy thing which you can do to inspire yourself.  Smile, it does not cost you a penny.  It will just boost your self-esteem and give you the power to be on the top of the world.  Smile can do miracles where other things can’t, so be happy and smile.


These are all the tiny little things that we tend to forget when we are angry, depressed, or in a situation when stress is too much.  I would not guarantee that this would work but what is wrong in giving it a try, I think there is nothing to lose by following it.





It was evening time and Jack was heading towards home just then he saw bar right across the street.  The bright lights attracted him as if they were inviting him to come and have a drink.  Jack couldn’t resist the temptation and continued walking towards the bar instead of home.

He entered the bar and sat on the stool next to the bartender.  Bartender smile, “Sir, what would you like to have?”  Jack said, “The usual.”  Bartender filled a pitcher of beer and moved it towards Jack.

Jack after having one after another was now disoriented to time, place, and person.  He was like translated into some beer land where there were just pitchers of beer all around.  It was time to close the bar and the bartender looked towards the assistant, as if he was saying “Just check out on him, is he in sense of walking to his home or we will have to assist him?”

Assistant tapped on Jack’s shoulder.  Jack moved his head around with his droopy eyes looked at assistant and said, “Yeh, I know it is time to go now.”  He got up from his seat and started walking towards the door.  Opened it and went out.  It was pitch dark now.

Somehow Jack reached home.  He just opened the lock and went straight to the bed and passed out.

Next day, he woke up at 11 o’clock in the morning.  When he saw the time he got worried as he had meeting in the office early morning at 8 a.m.  He had missed it.  Quickly, he called the office.  Jennie, his secretary, picked up the phone and she said, “Sir, client waited for an hour and then went back.  The deal is canceled.”  Jack was totally shattered by what Jennie had told him.

Jack after thinking for some time just went to the phone when he kept his black dairy.  He picked it up and started to find out the address once someone had given him.  It was of Stephen Jones.  He was the one who could help him.

Jack was attending rehab for intoxication, but to no avail.  He was a very bad drinker, sometimes binging and not able to recover for many days.  Because of this habit he had lost several jobs, people could not recognize him socially, tagged him as drunkard.  Jack knew he had to leave this habit but where to start and how to start as he was also into rehab but it was no use.  He couldn’t resist the temptation last night and again had gone to the bar for a drink and as a result suffered a loss at his job.

He knew Stephen Jones was the only person who could help him.  He just picked up that black book and turned some pages, found his address.  Jack quickly got ready to go.  Stephen’s place was quite far from where he was living.  He packed his bags and got in the car and headed towards his place.

The concrete had vanished and the greens had started on both sides of the highway.  He took left turn and he saw a little cottage near the river.  He knew he was heading right way.  Just little bit far from cottage he stopped.  He got out from the car and started walking towards the cottage.  Just then he noticed some sound as if someone was chopping firewood.

He went towards the back of the cottage and he saw an old man wearing brown shirt and white pajamas was chopping firewood with his back towards Jack.  Just then the man said, “I was expecting you Jack !!”  Jack was astonished as to how he knew his name, but not too astonished because he had heard from the people that Stephen was having some powers.  He could feel the presence of other people.

Jack just stood there and Stephen turned and said “I know why you have come here.”  Jack said, “I want to leave it at any cost.  Tell me what do I have to do for it.”  Stephen said, “Just pick up this firewood for me and put in the cottage, would you, then we will talk on this.”  Jack followed what Stephen had said and went into the cottage with firewood.

It was night now.  Jack and Stephen were sitting on the table having their dinner.  Stephen said, “Finish your food and go to bed.  Tomorrow you and me have to do lot of work in jungle.  Be ready for it.”  Nodding his head Jack responded as he was pretty exhausted.  He went to bed early that day.

Next day morning Jack woke up.  He stood up and freshened himself and went out of the cottage and there was Stephen sitting down on the grass meditating.  He just kept looking at him.  There was a sort of halo around Stephen.  Jack was not able to understand what was it.  He just called “Stephen, I am ready.  Let’s go.”  Stephen opened his eyes and just smiled.

Both of them headed towards the woods.  After they had walked for quite some time, there came a Bannayan tree and no sooner Jack could say a thing Stephen just went and clinged on to the tree.  Jack paused for a while and then looked at Stephen, he thought that he will get down on his own but he didn’t.  He was just clinging to it as if the little monkey baby clings to his mother.

Jack said, “Stephen why don’t you just leave this tree, so that we can walk on and do the things we came for.”  Stephen said, “What ! do you think I am holding on to this tree.  It is the tree who is not leaving me.”  Jack said, “What the heck are you talking about?  Tree is not leaving you?  This can’t be.  How a tree can hold you back.  It is you who is clinging to it not the tree.”  As soon as Jack said this Stephen left the tree and was standing in front of Jack.  He said Jack that is the answer to you problem, “It is you who are clinging to alcohol and not alcohol to you.”  He said, “You are as strong as your will.  The stronger the will, more stronger you are able to resist.”

Habits are nothing but part of human nature.  Unknowingly, we tend to develop some good ones and bad ones, but it is up to our will whether to leave it or stay with it.  Let a habit be habit and not a need or else you are completely destroyed.  When it becomes a need then you can’t see anything beyond it.  It camouflages your mind, your will, your inner strength and makes you useless, worthless soul just a walking blob, nothing more than that.


It is just up to you what you want to be as, “You are as strong as your will.”



It has never been easy to write for me.  Sometimes you like to write about the things which have happened in the past or about the things which you dreamt of, or which are happening at present.


Every now and then people tend to ask me about the reason behind all this. It’s very simple, “I just like to put my heart into it.”


Sometimes speaking truth isn’t that easy.  Being true to yourself takes lot of courage. It is just because everyone cannot understand what you are going through and what your circumstances are.  Just because everything seems right it doesn’t mean that everything is right.  Everybody in this world has a mask put on, which they never take off.


Speaking truth is just like removing the mask and revealing your inner self to let people know who you are. The chances are that you can lose your friends, your near ones, your dear ones, and whom you have known from long time.  It takes great bit of courage and strength to speak of truth.


All my life I’ve always tried to speak truth.  It was a little bit difficult because I lost many friends who were quite close to me.  People fail to understand that to speak lie it is very easy but to hide it, it is very difficult.  It is just like an infection, which cannot be cured.


I write because it is easier to tell the truth by writing.  It makes my heart feel free, my mind without any burden, and my soul without any guilt.


Speaking truth makes you feel weightless, it frees your mind, it makes you strong and bold to face the world that you have done no wrong and when you stand in front of the mirror and see yourself you feel proud that one more day you have faced the world without saying a lie.


Just try yourself speaking once for awhile the truth and facing the world as it is. I’m sure it will make you more than happy than you were before.


“You just live once, but if you do it right then once is enough.”





Reggie was just walking down the aisle which led to the mall.  It was the shortcut from his residence.  Just then he heard sweet voice as if some bird was chirping.  He turned around and looked to right just near the garbage can were two eyas (babies of hawk).


He was very kind hearted.  He picked them up and took them to his residence.  He lived near the river and his residence was the last after which the dense forest started.  He thought that he can not bring up eyas and thought of giving them to his friend who was an ornithologist, Jack Palmer.


He went to Jack and handed over the young ones to them.  Time passed by, Reggie was just sitting on the porch one day and was thinking what might have happened to eyas which he handed over to Jack.


So, he went to Jack.  He was very excited to see that they had turned into beautiful, elegant hawks by now.  He requested Jack that he wanted to see them fly.  On Reggie’s request Jack let them loose and they took flight.  One of them was flying sky high and the another one, he just took one round and went to the tree nearby and sat on the branch of the tree.


Reggie after seeing this asked Jack, “what has happened to this one? Why he is not flying like the other one?”  Jack had no answer.  He also said that whenever he let them go for a flight one of them used to fly high in the sky and the other one just took one round and sat on the branch of the tree.


Observing this Jack thought of consulting his colleague who was like him an ornithologist, Augustus Pablo.  Augustus told Jack that he would like to come down and observe both hawks.  Jack agreed to his decision.


Next day, Augustus came, Reggie was also there with Jack.  All three of them sat inside the room discussing about the hawks.  Just then suddenly Augustus stood up and said, “You guys stay here, I will just come in a second.”  Saying that he went towards the cage where the hawks were there.


Then after some time he called Jack and Reggie screamingly, “Jack !! Reggie !! guys come here.  You will just like to see this.”  Reggie and Jack ran outside and to their amazement they saw that both the hawks were flying in the sky very high.  All three of them look at them and just started laughing.


Reggie and Jack asked Augustus, “Hey man, what did you do?  How are the both hawks flying so high in the sky?”  Augustus replied, “Guys, nothing.  I just cut the branch on which that hawk was sitting again and again.  So, now his favorite place is gone where he was used to sitting for a long time that is why he is flying high with his fellow hawk in order to find new one.”


We all have potential to fly high and dream big, but sometimes in the life we are so used to sitting at one place that we are afraid of taking risks and moving ahead in life.  By doing this, we are just becoming our own obstacle.  We stop to grow, forget our potential, what we are, what we can be, and what we should be.


So, if you are at one place for so many long years and you feel like this is the place where I should not be then cut that branch and move ahead because there is much more potential in you than what you think of yourself.  Motivate yourself towards progress, never be stagnant.  The day you are still you fail yourself, you fail to grow, forget your worth, your potential, your strength.


So, stop being a zombie, get up and move ahead.  I know you still have it in you.



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Once there was a very famous artist, Juan DeMarco.  He was approached by a wealthy lady, Maria Cortez, to make a portrait of her.  Maria was very rich and famous among the wealthy people.  She told Juan to make such a portrait of her that nobody has ever made.  Agreeing to her request, Juan told Maria for that she will have to give him some time and a picture perfect photograph of her and once in a fortnight she will have to visit him until the portrait is finished.  Maria agreed to all his conditions.

Juan was a very renowned artist.  He just knew how to paint what a person wants and how to make them happy when they see their paintings.  He was man of art, professional, and yet very simple and humble.

Maria on the other hand being very rich and famous had somewhat of a different outlook.  She always wanted something which would make her stand out from others in the community.  She was also fond of dogs and had many, but out of them Bruno, a Border Collie, was her favorite one.  She thought he was a very clever dog.  She always took him anywhere she went.

Juan worked day and night to complete the portrait.  He had put in everything he had in it.  After burning the midnight oil finally the portrait was ready.  Seeing the portrait it seemed like Maria herself was standing in front of him, so beautifully made and lively it was.  Juan decided to call Maria and let her know that the portrait was ready.

Next day morning, he phoned Maria.  She picked up the phone and was very happy to know that the portrait was ready.

Maria couldn’t wait for a second to see how it was.  Hurriedly she dressed up and took out her Benz and drove straight away to Juan’s workshop.  She was very excited and so was Bruno who was barking and wagging his tail seeing Maria so much excited.

Maria reached the workshop and Juan was there already at the door to receive her.  He said, “Madam, it is done.  Your beautiful portrait is ready just as you have desired.”  Maria said, “That’s great, let’s see.”

They entered the room where the portrait was kept.  Maria was holding the strap of Bruno who was also wagging his tail wanting to see the portrait that Juan had made.  Juan uncovered the portrait and “Wallah..!!! what a portrait !  It was just as Juan had said beautiful and out of the world”, thought Maria.

Maria looking at the Bruno said, “Bruno see your mistress’ portrait.  How beautiful it is”, but the dog did not show any interest in it.  She always thought that Bruno was cleverest of all and was very fond of him, but this time it had gone too far.  Bruno didn’t even bothered what she was saying.

Maria said to Juan “I do not like this portrait of yours and I do not want it.  It doesn’t even look like me.  See my cleverest animal cannot even recognize me in your portrait.”

Juan was a wise man.  He kept his cool.  He knew the weird ways of wealthy people.  He said to Maria, “Madam come again tomorrow.  I will make sure that I make it so real that your Bruno will wag its tail and lick it.”  “So be it”, said Maria and went away.

Next day morning, she came back to the workshop, but to her astonishment Bruno freed himself from her grip and ran towards the portrait wagging his tail and licking it wildly.  Maria was really impressed by it.  She said, “How wonderful, how beautiful, Bruno likes the portrait and so do I.” Juan asked for a hefty amount for the portrait and Maria agreed and paid him in full and went home happily.

Juan had a hearty laugh as he had rubbed the portrait with juicy piece of meat and its smell had lured Bruno, who ran wagging his tail and licking it, thinking it was a piece of meat.

In all I just want to say that it is tact, which one should have as, “tact can turn a bad business into a good one.”  Being artist is one thing and being wise another thing, but to survive you have to be both at same time because world out there always is ready to test you when ever you go out selling something.

 So, are you ready for it ?






It had been several days now, but there was no improvement in grandma’s health.  Doctor’s tried every option on hand still the prognosis was grave.  Grandma was not showing any signs of recovering, just lying still on the bed, not able to respond to any commands, as if just a stone sculpture was kept in the corner of the room with all the ER machines beeping around, nurses trying to attend, it was clear that there was no hope.

Three days past without being able to eat or take liquids, just staring at the walls and thinking when all this will end — doctors now felt the need to contact the family.

The telecaller from the hospital team called up the residence, a full ring — but no one picked up the phone.  Answering machine started and the caller left the message.  The telecaller informed the hospital staff of not being able to contact the family and hence had left a message.

The physician in-charge got desperate and checked who was the next of kin and tried to contact again but in vain.

Next day morning, a young man in his 30s, Fred, came to the hospital.  After inquiring on the help desk, he turned towards the room where grandma was there.  He went in slowly so as to not disturb grandma, but as soon as he opened the door and stepped in the nurse sitting by grandma saw that the fingers of grandma move and she blinked, as if she knew who was there in the room.

Fred sat down and asked the nurse about the state of grandma.  She said all the things that were in the chart note.  Hearing what the nurse said there were tears in the eyes of Fred.  The nurse requested Fred that he should talk to grandma and ask her to eat and drink so that she could improve and be out of here.

He talked to her, but she was just staring on his face.  He said to her many times and in return she babbled some words that he couldn’t understand.  Fred said many times but to no avail.  Everything seemed so still and listless.  There was complete silence in the room.  Fred’s mind had stopped working now — he wanted that grandma should become healthy and come with him but what he was not able to understand that why she was not able to listen him and why he was not able to understand her ?  This question was constantly running in his mind.

Just then Aunt Claire arrived to the hospital.  Claire lived across the street where grandma and Fred lived.  Claire saw that Fred was sitting near grandma; a smile came on Claire’s face, but was halfhearted.

Fred talked to Aunt Claire, he said that he told grandma to eat and drink but she is not listening at all.  Nurses are trying to make her eat and drink still she is not responding. “She just keeps of babbling.  I just cannot understand her !!  What she is trying to say?”  Listening to what Fred was saying Aunt broke into tears.

Wiping her tears she said dear Fred, you say that you are not able to understand what she is saying.  She is the one who brought you up when your mom and dad died in car accident when you were 1-year-old.  At that time you cried, you babbled, but she knew every little gesture of yours, what you want and what makes you happy.  Now when she is in a state that she is not able to speak and is babbling you are saying ” I can’t understand what she is speaking !!!”

Fred, my dear, she does not want anything else than love, care, and a will to survive that his grandson is there by her side.  Just go and sit besides her, make her sit, give her something to eat and drink, and you will see the change.

Fred following the advice went and did the same.  After few days the doctors saw the miracle.  Grandma who was not willing to eat, who was just staring at the walls, was now hale and hearty, wanted to go home again and wanted to live.

Will is very strong in a person’s life as are love and care.  Love and care gives us the will and strength to fight against all odds in life.  No matter how difficult the time is, no matter how dark the night is, the dawn beckons.

 “A will will find a way.”